Last night Significant Other told me that he "had an obligation" to stay with me, because if our infertility had been his fault, I would stay with him.
"An obligation".
For now I have decided that means something different in the Antipodes - you know, like "love you beyond measure and being without you is unthinkable". Because I just don't have the resources at the moment for it to mean anything else.
"A Place of Greater Safety" by Hilary Mantel
18 hours ago
I hope that's what it means too.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you.
Wait. What?
ReplyDeleteInfertility is not one persons fault. No matter who has the medical difficulty. He needs a slap in the face.
I'm sorry, don't mean to be judgmental but this makes me mad. Probably because I'm going through a similar situation.
Can strongly recommend seeing a counselor.
Big hugs!
I'm sorry. :( Throughout this whole thing I've tried to be very conscious about "blame". When we found out that many of our issues may be caused by a translocation in my husband's 2nd chromosome, he started expressing it as being "because of" him.
ReplyDeleteThat makes me so sad because 1) it's not his fault. He has no control over it. and 2) HE'S the one I with whom I want to be a parent, messed up chromosome or no.
Infertility is no place for blame. No one would choose this.
Sending you hugs.