You are all, every one of you, both awesome and right.
I can't tell you how much your comments and support have helped. I took your advice as, to a woman, you all suggested that I stop covering things up. So, when not-MIL asked yesterday morning "is Significant Other okay?" I said "well he is rather depressed". Not-MIL said nothing more on the topic to me but I heard her say something to not-FIL and later on in the day Significant Other was taken off for a father-son chat.
Before that, however, I also took a deep breath and spoke to Significant Other on Sunday night and told him that I thought he was being a bit unfair on me by shutting himself in the bedroom and leaving me to entertain his parents alone. I mentioned that this was all very difficult for me as well and told him that I was feeling sad and very homesick. I also said - not threatening, but simply stating the facts, that if things didn't get better, I was going to go home on Friday (it is not-MIL's birthday on Thursday).
And yesterday was a lovely day. Significant Other made me coffee in the morning, did his best to enjoy himself on a river cruise despite the rain, joined in the chatter around the lunch table and took me off for a walk on our own afterwards.
This is all your doing, dear interwebs, because you gave me the support I needed to find the courage to talk to Significant Other. So again - thank you!
Edited to add - just noticed that Blogger put the date and time of this post as if I were publishing in England normal, it is in fact Tuesday morning as I write this.
Other's or Aunties' Day
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Oh yayyyyyyy!
ReplyDeleteSmall steps Illanare, small steps! Coffee, a cruise and then a walk is good.
I hope things continue to improve a little more each day.
And bravo for being brave enough to be honest with not- MIL!
Big hugs
xxxx
I am so glad that you are feeling better and that you are getting more support from both your significant other and his family. Hoping that you get to enjoy the rest of your trip.
ReplyDeleteIllanare, I tried so hard to post on your previous post but my I phone wouldn't let me. I am so glad you were able to get support from the lovely interwebs and tell SO how you were feeling and let him step up to the plate a bit. I hope it continues. You are not the only one who has to hold this thing together -he needs to get that. BIG HUGS!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou rock!! I'm sure none of that was easy, but I'm SO glad you were able to do it and, as a result, get some much-needed support.
ReplyDeleteMany (((HUGS)))
I am in Currimundi my love, so not very far from you at all!
ReplyDeleteWhen do you go home?
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Sweetie, delighted things are a bit better!
ReplyDeletegood on you for being brave!! If you can, continue to be honest and as open as possible - I feel like it can only help. If SO reverts back to how it has been then you need to seriously consider following through with coming home, so he knows to take you seriously. I hope so much however that things get better each day & you enjoy the rest of your holiday x
ReplyDeleteoh, i'm so pleased. well done for speaking up! i'm sure it was incredibly hard for you, so give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.
ReplyDeletei'm so glad you've had a much better day now :) long may it continue!
I've been remiss in reading blogs over the past couple of weeks. Just wanted to let you know that I'm glad you had a chance to talk to S.O. I hope things continue to improve and that you'll continue to keep that line of communication open. Easier said than done, I know ... but I'll be rooting for you, nonetheless!
ReplyDeletexoxo
Em
I'm glad the talk helped and things have improved. I hope the rest of your stay is good. Oh, my dear, you have been so strong and brave for so long. I do so hope someone can be strong and brave for you for a while.
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