Things between S and me are going really well. He came over to my place on Sunday night and I cooked supper. We were both glad that I had chosen a meal which is best served cold ;-)
And now I am panicking, as is my wont. Gentle reader, I really like S and I think I am in real danger of falling in love with him. I feel that I should raise my shields and not let him in to my life (and heart) any further.
Talk me down off the ledge!
Dang it all. There's a quote that is perfect for this - basically saying you need to dare to love, and that's the way you get the great rewards - but I can't remember it!
ReplyDeleteIn my book, shields don't really protect us. Go listen to Brene Brown talk about shields and armour, and daring to be vulnerable!
Cos it sounds like he's worth it!
It sounds like a normal reaction to a whole lot if emotion and the remnants of self doubt left over from A. I would say leap carefully, but still leap! Good luck;)
ReplyDeleteI think you should just let it go and let it flow...enjoy the feelings of falling in love. :-) I think if something bad happens to us (knock on wood), then we'll deal with it later on.
ReplyDeleteI once read/listened to a story of a man who was scared of a broken heart so that he tried shielding his feelings for years...finally when his wife died, he said that his shield didn't help him at all in terms of facing her death. He even regretted wearing the shield - he said he should've just given it all and enjoyed it all while it lasted.
Oh dear friend, of course it's scary, the "what ifs" are there and the memory of the heartbreak you experienced before is your alarm bell. But. He is not A, he definitely seems to be worth the risk!
ReplyDeleteI'm no help here- I'm in a similar situation and so I'm keeping talking myself out. :-P
ReplyDeleteSometimes we have to take risks, knowing that we could be burned- but then again, we might reap rewards that may be life enriching.
Every time we put our hearts out it is a risk, but just think about the times in your life that you did put your heart out and got so much in return...focus on that. Try to relax and enjoy this time in your relationship, I think it is one of the best "stages" of a relationship.
ReplyDeleteUnless you take that step, you do not know what waits for you over that one step. It is always a leap of faith, isn't it, this strange business with love. Since he seems eager to take the leap with you, take his hand and dive. Should something bad happen, you know your heart has been broken in so many millions before, and yet it is ready to fall in love again. It sounds callous, and so very similar to 'just relax', still... Take the leap, my friend! You could win the world! :-)
ReplyDeleteDare to love my friend. I'm a firm believe in it better to have loved and lost, than not loved at all. Regret the things you did, rather than those you did not.
ReplyDeleteLet yourself fall, yes it's scary BUT that's part and parcel of falling in love, tumbling head first into the unknown, letting yourself be guided by a heart that is just chasing what it feels is right.
Go with it xx
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