Last February a friend of mine, Songbird, had a massive coronary and lapsed into a coma. She was on the high dependancy unit of a London hospital for months, and I would go and visit her a couple of times a week. It's tough when you can't converse with someone, but sitting and silently holding her hand doesn't seem to be enough either. I ended up reading bits of her favourite newspaper out to her, looking for the lighter stories and also segments about London 2012.
Last Saturday, she died. It's so sad that I'll never see her again but in truth - for me anyway - she died 14 months ago; it was the outside shell of Songbird I was reading to. The essence of her, her laugh, her melodic voice, her expressive eyes, the sheer force of her personality, was gone. But it's still sad.
Also, 28th April 2008 - I lost Starchild.
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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I hope she was in no pain and her spirit knew you were there, sitting with her and loving her.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. You were a good friend to her, and I'm sure that in some way, she knew you were there for her until the end.
ReplyDeletelosses suck arse. i'm so sorry honey. i have no doubt that she knew you were there visiting here - you're such a good friend.
ReplyDeletethis weekend has just been a rather shite one all round.
sending you big hugs and lots-o-love
~x~
My condolences. I'm so sorry. It's beautiful Songbird had you there to ease her passing. It's so horrible and sad that she died at all, and that you've had so much loss to deal with. Thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteA difficult week for sure. Wish I knew you so we could share a toast to Songbird and have a good cry for our babies.
ReplyDeleteSeems like more than a few people have had losses this week, or are remembering them. So sorry. :( Thinking of you....
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful friend you were to Songbird. Loss on top of loss isn't easy, and sometimes the reality of loss, even though you think you've come to terms with it, can hurt anew too. Thinking of you right now.
ReplyDeletethinking of your friend and always of your sweet baby.
ReplyDeleteso much love to you....
I'm so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteNot an easy date, then. So sorry to hear this x
ReplyDeleteRemembering Starchild, and thinking of you and your friend and her family xxx
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry just doesn't seem like enough. I am heartbroken for you, for your friend, for the many losses you have endured these past few years. You are in my heart and in my thoughts today.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you for your losses that you've experienced over the years. I am sending your good thoughts and warm vibes from afar.
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